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You’re not sexually attracted to anybody because everybody is male but you still have sexual desires and you can still feel pleasure down there.’ So is it like someone who has no appetite but can still experience the pleasant taste of food? Growing up with no interest in sex during the sexual revolution, Jean Wilson recalls, 'My friends couldn’t believe it. 'The problem is that as you get older [dating is] more difficult anyway, and when you add in the asexuality, it makes it even more difficult. 'I really don’t need a close relationship, I don’t even need a best friend, and I’m quite happy the way I am.’ Prof Bogaert stresses that asexuality is not a problem.I did go on to Friends Reunited thinking once a bloke gets to 65, that’ll be it, we can just be friends. 'If someone is not distressed by their asexuality then, no, I don’t think it is a disorder.
Michael Doré, a 30-year-old mathematics researcher at the University of Birmingham, who organised the London asexuality conference, explains it using the 'desert island analogy’. 'It’s never appealed to me, it’s never interested me, it’s a total mystery to me why people are so obsessed.’ At 28, Jean married and had sex for the first time. That was a dreadful thing to hear as a woman.’ She wanted children, so agreed to sex as a 'chore’ ('In the 1970s I don’t think we knew about turkey basters,’ she explains).
'Imagine you’re a straight man on a desert island with only men. 'I felt: “Good grief, what the hell was it all about? But after their second child was born, her husband left, and subsequent relationships haven’t worked out. I might meet up with another aromantic, but I’m not looking for it.’ She lives with her divorced eldest son (who is aware of her asexuality) and his daughter.
The founder, David Jay, a 30-year-old scientific researcher from San Francisco, says that human asexuality started to be hypothesised by scientific researchers in the 1970s and 1980s, but that it has only been in the past decade that a community of people started to identify with the term. The first major book on the subject, Understanding Asexuality, by Prof Anthony Bogaert, of Brock University, Canada, has just been published and this summer the first worldwide conference on asexuality was held in London.
'An asexual is someone who doesn’t experience sexual attraction,’ is how Jay defines it.
According to Prof Bogaert, one in 100 people is asexual, although many may not realise they are. In one study, using data collected in the 1990s from 18,000 British people, Prof Bogaert found that about 70 per cent of asexual people were women.
And asexuals are more likely than sexual people to stay single, he says, 'but some asexual people may still have nonsexual love or romantic bonds with partners’.
She explains: 'Holding hands is as far as I would ever take anything. 'I let it slip one time at work that I’m an asexual aromantic [an asexual who is also not interested in making romantic attachments], and they think it’s absolutely hysterical,’ says Jean Wilson, a sales assistant and 63-year-old grandmother from Banbury.
'One of the women I work with said, “I don’t think you’ve met the right man yet.” I said: “Trish, I’m 63.
'It was just so wonderful and liberating that there were other people who felt as I did, and [to know I wasn’t] a freak anymore.Tags: Adult Dating, affair dating, sex dating